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Tomorrow night, as the Blue Jays take the field for their first World Series game in 32 years, I find myself thinking about time, how it moves, how we mark it, and how certain moments seem to hold more than others.

As I write, The Mighty Rio Grande by the band This Will Destroy You plays in the background. It’s the same haunting track often used in baseball highlight reels, the one from Moneyball that rises and swells beneath the most emotional sports moments. Somehow, it feels right.

There’s something about baseball that just hits differently. It’s never just about the game in front of us, but about all the games that came before. 

Maybe it’s the numbers, the endless statistics that let us measure generations and compare legends. Maybe it’s the pace, the slow burn of a game that unfolds in quiet moments between action. Or maybe it’s something deeper. Baseball holds a kind of memory that feels almost sacred.  It is the nostalgia made tangible, a way of reliving who we were through the game we watched and the people we shared it with. 

My first sports memory that really stuck was the 1981 Expos. I can still name their starting nine. I remember racing home at lunch to catch the end of the deciding game, and then the heartbreak as Rick Monday’s home run ended it all. Blue Monday. One of the most memorable days in Canadian baseball history, a unifying disappointment that every fan seemed to feel together.

I remember where I was for that one, just like I remember watching Joe Carter’s home run with my dad twelve years later. You don’t just remember the play; you remember the room, the people, the sound of your own voice shouting in disbelief. Baseball does that. It freezes a moment in time and lets us return to it, even decades later.

We love sports in our house, but none of our kids ever got into baseball. They found it too slow, painfully slow. Instead, they gravitated toward cheer, basketball, and track — sports with constant motion, immediate results, clear finish lines. I loved baseball growing up, but I get it. The game does feel too slow for our short-attention society. We are used to speed, to instant results, constant updates and highlights trimmed down to fifteen seconds. Baseball asks something different. It asks you to wait. To breathe. To notice.

And yet, as an educator, I see them learning the same lessons with my kids, just at a different tempo. The patience of perfecting a cheer routine through countless repetitions. The persistence of basketball practice. The slow accumulation of milliseconds shaved off a track time. The rhythm might be different, but the long game remains.

Monday night, when George Springer launched that three-run homer to send the Blue Jays past Seattle and into the World Series, Rogers Centre (I still just call it Skydome) erupted in a way we hadn’t heard in more than three decades. The excitement is infectious, sweeping through the community and the country. For those of us who grew up on the West Coast, Seattle and Toronto were our two favourite baseball teams. We would catch maybe one Jays game a week, but almost every Mariners game on local TV. Seeing those two cities battle for the pennant, knowing one had to lose, felt bittersweet and beautiful, like revisiting an old part of ourselves. The heartbreak for Seattle fans, the joy for Toronto. Both emotions familiar, both part of the game’s poetry.

Schools are a little like baseball that way. They are built on patience and presence. They reward those who keep showing up, even when the results take time. The best teachers, like the best players, understand that the season is long and the game cannot be rushed. There is a rhythm to learning that can’t be condensed into a clip or captured in a score.

Both baseball and teaching embody a culture of saying yes: yes to the slow moments between breakthroughs, yes to showing up when progress isn’t visible, yes to believing in potential that takes time to manifest. It’s saying yes to the process, not just the outcome.

We talk a lot these days about acceleration, about faster tools, quicker responses, and shorter attention spans. But maybe education, at its heart, is still about the long game. About showing up every day, doing the small things that no one notices, trusting that they will add up to something beautiful over time. About saying yes to patience when everything else demands speed.

When you are twenty and Canada’s team has just won back-to-back championships, you believe it will happen again soon. You can’t imagine that suddenly you’ll be fifty-two, that three decades will have slipped by, that you will have lived an entire life in the space between World Series appearances. The wait itself becomes a teacher. And now, caught up in the excitement that’s gripping the country, you realize how much these moments matter precisely because they are so rare.

As the Blue Jays prepare to face the defending champion Dodgers, I find myself thinking not just about the scoreboard but about that sound, the crack of the bat, the swell of the crowd, the quiet connection between father and son, teacher and student, one generation and the next.

Maybe that’s what baseball and teaching really share. They both remind us that the moments that matter most rarely happen fast. They both ask us to say yes to the waiting, to the watching, to the faithful belief that something magical might happen if we just stay present.

And maybe that’s the real lesson, that in a world obsessed with the next big thing, there’s still magic in the slow game, in the steady, human work of showing up, staying hopeful, and believing that meaning often reveals itself only when we give it time.

Over the next week, a new generation of fans will create their own frozen moments. Somewhere, a parent and child will watch together, and thirty years from now, that child will remember not just the game, but the feeling of being there, present, connected, saying yes to the slow unfolding of something larger than themselves.

Play ball.

 

 

The image at the top of this post was generated through AI.  Various AI tools were used as feedback helpers (for our students this post would be a Yellow assignment – see link to explanation chart) as I edited and refined my thinking.

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Dad Updated Photo

I have been stuck.  This is my first blog effort in about a month.  It is, by far, my longest time away from public writing and it has been challenging to write.  While I know some might have hoped I would write about the job action that has cast a cloud over the BC public education system, there is little I could add that would not just be more noise. So, with less writing, I have been reading more.  And, something I read finally gave me the momentum to become unstuck.

I stumbled my way to the blog You Suck, Sir from a local Vancouver teacher.  As he describes the blog, “My students are funny.  Sometimes, it’s intentional.”  The blog is a collection of stories from the English teacher’s class over the last two decades — some absolutely great writing.  He recently wrote a post  answering a question about having a teaching philosophy.

He starts:

Great question.  And I was reminded of it tonight when I got in touch with my sponsor teacher from 1995.  He’s well into his retirement now but he was a legendary teacher in his day and head of the English department in our city’s largest high school.  He took me under his wing and I got to observe how a master teacher runs his class.  And I’ll be honest: I didn’t see anything.  I had to report back to my faculty advisor all the things I’d noticed in terms of methodology and classroom management.  But I didn’t “see” anything.  It took me a while to realize why:  he made it look easy.  He had internalized everything a teacher is supposed to do.  I even confronted him about it one day to ask which educational philosophy he abides by, and he answered: “Listen to what they’re saying.”

This IS the challenge of teaching.  Maybe other professions have similar challenges, but it is difficult to define powerful teaching.  It is this blend of art and science the masters weave so effortlessly.  I grew up in a house of teachers. I can remember from a very young age watching my mom and dad prepare lessons. I knew they were good at what they did — I would hear it from my friends on sports teams and others in the community about how much they liked having my parents as teachers, but it was difficult to really understand exactly what they did that made their classrooms work. As I started my teaching career I would try to emulate how I thought they would teach; it was tough because there is just no ‘how-to’ recipe for our profession.

Returning to the blog, the author distills three main ideas:

1)  If you can’t address a student’s immediate needs, he won’t be available to your teachings.

2)  Do not compromise a young person’s dignity.

3)  Do not take anything personally.

Continuing his observations about his sponsor teacher:

The teacher I mentioned at the start of this, my sponsor teacher, said something that I’ve carried with me to this day: “I would do this job for free if I didn’t need money.”  At the time, I found this statement disturbing because there was no way I’d do it for free.  But I see now that he was talking about joy.  There is joy to be had in this career.  There is nothing more exhilarating than seeing a student suddenly “get” a concept she’d been struggling with. There are few things more smile-inducing than watching your grade eights help each other out with assignments while joking around with each other.  And the pure happiness of watching them really, truly enjoy learning—man, that’s the reason I returned to teaching after an eight-year break.

It is interesting the conversations I would have had/still do have with my parents about our profession.  They love the craft.  The would shun any attention for what they were doing — they weren’t doing it to be noticed, they were doing it for the students and their commitment to teaching.  It IS a pretty special profession.

The author finishes with words that are so true, “Teaching is about being a learner yourself.  That’s why, when it comes to being an effective teacher, we have to listen to what they’re saying.”

I have tried (and will continue to try) to use my blog to tell the many stories of students, teachers and others in our system trying new things and making a difference. And, like my parents, most are not looking for any attention, but it is still kind of nice when someone notices.

I guess I saw that firsthand this past week. I have spent a lot of time with my dad recently, he hasn’t been that well and we got to talking about the blog post on teaching philosophy.

It was pretty special because the sponsor teacher that the author, Paul, was writing about was my dad.

Thanks Paul.

Thanks Dad.

Keep Well Teacher Friends.  The joy will be back.

 

 Update – August 11 

My dad died last week, just a few days after his 72nd birthday.  You can read more about him here.   I am so glad that I got to share this post with him and I am so appreciative of all of the comments.  It is nice to know his story connected with so many of you.

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We All Have a Story

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I wrote about the PISA results last week, and they have been subject of commentary across Canada and around the world.  One of the many things I appreciate coming from these conversations is the universal value we have placed on education.  Our education systems are a sense of pride and we know, regardless of where a country places on the data tables, there is a need to improve and be better.

So, how much of a value do we put on education? This past week, I spent some time talking with our newer families to the West Vancouver District.  Across British Columbia and Canada — we know their stories. They have moved from around the world for new opportunities and a better life here — very often it is defined by educational opportunities for their kids. These stories will be familiar to you.  The story of the family where both parents were doctors in their home country and now they are working multiple low-paying jobs in Canada, and do so without resentment; they came here for their children; for better opportunities; for the access to our top-quality education. There is another story of the family where mother resides here with the kids so they can go to school, while the father continues to work overseas and support his family thousands of miles away.

Short snippets into the lives of new Canadians remind me of our good fortune with education, and how we easily take it for granted.  Yes, we have challenges. Yes, we can do more, but our system does not only offer high achievement results, it offers hope for so many families.

I have been fortunate to not have had to make the sacrifices like so many in our schools. I was further reminded of this by my uncle and author, David Waltner-Toews who published the story of his parents and my grandparents to the CBC website as part of a Canada Writes Promotion around Bloodlines.  David said:

Mother lived in a Mennonite village in the Ukraine with her mother, three sisters, a brother, and three older half-siblings. They had a small mixed farm, and a barn attached to the house with a few cows and chickens in it. My mother remembers churning butter and collecting eggs for the hospital next door. Her father died in 1914, and grandma ran the farm business.

During the Revolution, men and boys were requisitioned to transport soldiers, or to go through the village and collect bodies, and then bury them in mass graves. At night, they hid in the basement; there was often shooting in the streets, and in the morning, they would find bullet holes in the windows. After the Revolution and Civil War came famine. When there wasn’t shooting, the streets were quiet at night – all the dogs and cats had been eaten. My mother’s family was lucky as their few cows were still giving milk.

In 1926, when my mother was fifteen, she and her siblings decided to leave for Canada. They auctioned the house and farmland. That night, there were about twenty people in the house, and a guard outside, as protection against bandits who would commonly watch for such auctions and break in to steal the money. When the bandits arrived and shot their way into the house, someone screamed, “Everyone is on their own!”

In the pandemonium that followed, one of the kids got away with the money. My mother and two of her sisters ran into barn, where the cattle were stampeding. From there they crawled into the machine-shed, out into a garden and over to a neighbour’s. Over the next three days, the kids scattered to the homes of different relatives, and finally, in secret, took a speeding horse carriage to the train station.

As agreed, they met in Moscow, from where they took a train to Riga, Latvia. The guards at the border took many of their belongings, but they were relieved to be free. From Riga they crossed the North Sea to England, and took a train to Southampton, from where they boarded The Empress of Scotland. In Montreal, Mom said they were “herded into immigration cubicles and sorted out”. The kids were sent to Saskatchewan and Alberta, where they worked as farm helpers and house servants.

From that childhood, Mom learned priorities: music, food, and family. She once told Dad to sell the car so we could have a piano. We kids all needed to take lessons. After Dad died, we would gather around the piano and sing old Christmas carols. From Mom, I also learned how to make the best peppermint cookies ever. We weren’t poor, she said; we just didn’t have much money. And if I ever complained about stupid politicians, she would sigh and say, “Yes, well, they come and they go. Such is life.” When I feel like complaining, I remember Mom, bake cookies, call the kids, and play piano (badly). It works wonders.

My mother, my uncle David, and their other three siblings all became teachers.  Part of coming to Canada was the power of education.

We all have these kind of stories — for so many coming to Canada was about hope and about education.  What an honour to be part of this system.  Good people doing important work.

My thanks to all of you who continue to read and engage with the Culture of Yes.  I will write one more post prior to the end of 2013 — an annual (practically traditional) “Top 3” post – but now I am sending you and your family best wishes for a safe and wonderful holiday season!

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