I love this notion that a leader can lend their calm.
I was recently listening to The Canadian-Ed Leadership Show hosted by Dean Shareski and his interview with the former Director General of the Lester B School Board in Montreal, Michael Chechile. He was relaying a story from Michael Fullan. Chechile, quoting Fullan, said, “you don’t only show your calm as a leader but you lend your calm.” This is such a wonderful extension to what we often say about modeling the calm we want in others.
Calmness is such an important quality in school leadership. As Chechile describes, it is one of the soft skills that you need to be a team player. This notion of lending your calm is also referenced in the work of Stuart Shanker, someone who has greatly impacted my thinking – when their storm meets your calm, co-regulation occurs. While it can be great in the classroom with students, the same principles apply in the interactions school and district leaders have with other adults in our work.
I really like this simple idea of lending your calm to someone else. It can mean offering a sense of tranquility, reassurance, or stability to another person during a stressful or challenging situation. It involves sharing a peaceful and composed presence to help someone feel more at ease or supported. I am sure it is true in many professions, but I can speak with most authority in the school setting, that calmness from school and district leaders can be one of the most important qualities in times of heightened emotions.
This idea of extending emotional support and helping others navigate difficult moments by sharing your own inner sense of peace or calmness is very powerful. This act can be particularly valuable in situations where someone is feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stressed, as your quiet presence can have a calming effect on them.
When I think to the specific work of school and district leaders, lending our calm can:
- exhibit leadership presence
- manage a crisis
- help in decision making
- assist in communication
- build support and confidence
- model resilience
- promote wellness
School and districts leaders seem to be faced with increased situations of heightened emotions. This simple idea of lending one’s calm, can help reframe these situations, and help us slow down and react more thoughtfully.
Thanks Dean, Michael, Michael and Stuart for sharing this thinking.



